Things To Consider Before Saying I Do

1. Vision
Marry someone that believes strongly in your
vision.The person doesn't need to do same
profession like you. However the person MUST
have kin interest in your vision. It will inspire
you and help the two of you bond together in
an unusual way.
2. Mutual respect
Does the person respect you, your opinion and
family?
Do you feel
free when you are with the person or you
always have to pretend whenever you are
together?
Does he/she abuse you physically or
emotionally?
Is the person proud of you when you are in
the company of others?
A marriage that has no mutual respect has a
high tendency of break-up.
3. Friendship
Does the person inspire or motivate you?
When you marry your friend (someone with
whom you understand each other and your
spirit connect),chances are that you will enjoy
living together as partner. When you and your
close friend quarrel, you are quick to resolve
it. That is how it should be also in marriage.
4. Avoid comparison
Never compare your husband with your father
or ex. Same way, never compare your wife
with your mother or sister. They are two
different people. whenyou start comparing
your partner or partner to-be, with someone
else, you cannot be happy in such marriage.
Whatever qualities you desire, go for someone
that has it.
5. Manage your differences
Most times people want to marry someone
like them. My recommendation is marry
someone who is opposite of you (ie. Who has
the qualities you are lacking). In that way you
will be able to complement each other.
6. Mutual understanding
Your partner have different background,
hence, both of you will see things differently.
Be willing to shift ground and your partner
must be willing to do same .
If your partner truly loves you, he will not
want to always have his way.
Be willing to learn his language, favourite
game, eat his/her kind of food, dress in a way
that appeal to his/her fantasy etc
.If your partner to-be always want to have his/
her way in every discussion, watch it!
7. Truth and open communication
8. Genuine love
Can the person stay with you in bad times?
Does he/she love you for who you are or just
because of sex, money or selfish purpose?
Do you enjoy staying with him/her?
Does he/she forgive when offended?
Wonderful marriage is not made of two
perfect people but two forgivers
9. Testimony of others
What does other people feel or say about him/
her?
Does your pastor, parent and friends approve
of him/her.
When in love, there are many things we
wouldn't see which is obvious to others.
10. God factor
Is the relationship based on God's principles or
selfish motive?
Does your spirit agree with him or her?
Do you consult God who is the author of
marriage?
If your marriage is good without God, I assure
you, it will be best with him
Above all, learn from other peoples mistake
and avoid repeating it.