but i cant stay with him. I met him and he immediately
proposed to me and i accepted because i was having many
suitors then that were all AS and am AS. He is not educated
and not very rich. He came with his people to our house
for introduction. I became pregnant for him. The day i told
him that i was pregnant, he confessed to me that he
doesnt have any money for brideprice, that he is owing
bank and doesnt even have money to pay. I cried that day
because of the pain i wil pass through. What he told me
was whether i ve not seen girls that give birth in their
father's house. I was stil thinking of what to do when he
went and told my father that am already pregnant for him.
My father got annoyed and refused to pay my school fees
for that year. I was in 3rd year in the university then, it was
my mother that paid, if not i would ve quit school. After
some months, he came and paid my dowry. When he was
abt coming, i called him and told him to please add more
5 thousand to the brideprice that i wil give him back so
that my kinsmen wont laugh at me, he accepted but came
with the same amt he told me initially. He did that because
he knew i was already pregnant i cant leave him. After the
brideprice payment while i was in his house, he will go out
and comeback very late. When i try to be annoyed to know
if he wil apologise, he wil just leave and go to bed. He will
never apologise or console me even when i cry the whole
night. In my tradition, after this first visit am supposed to
go home with cloths but i went home with nothing. I
wedded on sept. 2011 and i have a baby boy for him but i
regret why i accepted to marry him. When i remember the
past i hate him so much. The worst part of it is that he
wants us to pack to village because he cant pay house rent.
He doesnt even talk to me in manner that wil calm me
down. He tells me" you think you are coming to enjoy
money, you didnt look before leaping" . No remorse at all.
I dont want to stay in the village after graduation. Am
currently in my parents house so they help me carry my
baby while i go to school. Even my mother regrets why i
married him. Should i start suffering from poverty and a
husband who doesnt appreciate me at my age till when.
Am about writing my degree exam and am not
concentrating. I need your advice please before i run mad"
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