content and positive, it is likely you are in a happy and
healthy relationship. However, sometimes
relationships can turn sour and you can be left with
no idea what to do, or who to turn to.
Here're seven reasons why some relationships just
don't work.
1. They have a relationship checklist.
While it is important to learn what you like and dislike
in a relationship, a great relationship is based in the
heart rather than the mind. Creating a list of qualities
a partner must have leads to high expectations and
demands, and often takes away a lot of surprise and
fun. Believe in your intuition and get rid of the list.
2. They are overly critical to each other.
Honesty is important in a relationship, but being with
someone who is extremely critical can lower your
self-esteem and make you feel depressed. Critical
behaviour includes insulting your weight, height,
appearance, friends, style or job, while making you
feel worthless. Ask yourself: are these comments
honest, or unnecessary?
3. They don't deal with jealousy.
Relationships should be supportive and loving.
However, jealousy can often rear its ugly head in
relationships. Some of the main warning signs are:
acting irrationally angry when the other person
receives good news, such as making a new friend or
finding a job, demanding to know personal or private
information,
being angry if their partner talks to the opposite sex,
or irrationally accusing them of lying or cheating.
4. They think that honesty is not important.
Telling a white lie won't end a relationship, but
dishonesty about important issues shows a lack of
respect for your partner's feelings. Continued
dishonestly leads to mistrust, upset and anger, so it is
important to be open during difficult times. In a
strong relationship, you should be able to say yes to
both of these questions: do I trust my partner to be
honest? Can my partner expect the same of me?
5. They blame each other unfairly.
Blaming someone constantly and without reason is
emotional abuse, and often the person being blamed
starts to believe they are in the wrong, making them
feel guilty and upset for not thinking themselves "good
enough." It is important (and emotionally mature) to
take responsibility for our own actions, and to treat
the person you are in a relationship with respectfully.
6. They are emotionally immature.
Relationship maturity doesn't come with age; it is a
willingness to work at a relationship, accept blame,
and compromise. Beware of starting a relationship
with someone who gets angry over nothing. At the
beginning of a relationship, most people try their
hardest to avoid fights, so be aware of how they
behave in certain situations, or how they treat other
people. Sometimes emotionally immature people are
willing to learn how to mature and grow, but be
careful, pushing or forcing someone to change is also
immature.
7. They just want to control each other.
Being in a relationship with someone who is
controlling is often emotionally exhausting. Trying to
please a controlling person is difficult, as they often
want you to live life by their rules, not your own,
which can leave you feeling unfulfilled. Watch out for
these signs: they tell you how to dress or act, they
check your phone or emails, they show up at your
home without being invited and they may go through
your belongings without permission.
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