rack and being drawn and quartered. Halting your partner's
constant whining is easier than you think. But, if you're
looking for a stress-free existence, simply follow these
suggestions. Believe it or not, you do have the power to stop
your partner's nagging.
Agree with her
Whether you agree or not, just say yes. By simply
acknowledging the validity of her complaints you'll be able
to buy yourself invaluable time. Granted, the problems
won't be any closer to being resolved, but she'll be so
pleased that you've come around to her way of thinking that
you'll temporarily be let off the hook.
Tune it out
When she cranks up the volume of her whining, crank up the
volume on your stereo just like you used to do with your
mom or, better yet, simply zone out altogether. Be
forewarned, however, that ignoring it won't make it go away.
Tuning her out may be a decent short- term solution, but
ultimately it'll infuriate her even more.
Pick your battles
You must know when it's advantageous to pick a battle and
when it's not worth fighting for. Be complaint and defiant
alternately.
Strike when the iron's hot
If her biggest issue is the mess you leave when your friends
come over, make an effort to clean it before she has a
chance to get into action. These five minutes of work will
save you from three hours of mind-numbing, soul-crushing
nagging.
Give deadlines & meet them
You're watching a match and she won't stop harping about
replacing the light bulbs in the foyer. Just assure her it will
be done during halftime or, more specifically, as soon as the
game ends - and then do it. In the future, she'll know there's
no need to nag you because you always come through on
your promise.
Hug her & make a move
Next time she kicks her whining into high gear, kiss her
affectionately and try to divert her attention. Hey, it works.
Over time, she'll equate nagging with romantic interludes
and it'll work for both of you.
Surprise, surprise
Derail all of her arguments with a sudden and unexpected
surprise. Bring her flowers, get her tickets for the opera, do
something so romantic and out of character that she'll
suddenly forget all about the nagging.
Just communicate
Maybe over time, you have forgotten how to communicate.
The next time she starts nagging you, ask her to take a five-
minute time out and consider whether she's truly angry
about your lack of cleanliness or whether there's a bigger
issue at hand. Her nagging about trivial issues might be
symptomatic of a larger, more significant problem. Maybe
she feels you don't spend enough time with her.
Turn the tables on her
Nobody's perfect, so how about turning the tables on her.
Whenever she nags about your unhealthy eating habits, tell
her that she also has bad habits you'd like to see her quit.
Just keep in mind that the self-esteem of most women is
extremely fragile.
Show her the alternative
Life is all a matter of perspective. Sure, you may not be
perfect, but at least you're not as bad as your buddies. Show
her how lucky she is to have you by inviting your most
uncouth friends over for dinner. They'll set the bar so low,
that you'll be the king in no time.
Take it or leave it
Tell her there are some things in your life she'll have to
accept if she loves you. Given the choice of accepting your
faults or losing you altogether, she'll likely make the
decision to stick it out.
Take a break
Taking a break may sound extreme, but you'll be able to
better appreciate the qualities that brought you together in
the first place. Remember absence makes the heart grow
fonder.
Shape up
Nagging is the repetition of unpalatable truths. So maybe,
just maybe, there's actually something at the root of her
incessant complaining. Granted, nagging is a horrible way of
communicating, but she may just have a valid point. Listen
to what she's saying and see if you can address the issues
that concern her most.
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